When is the last time you stopped to reflect on patience? Think about how much is centered on instant gratification these days. Entrepreneurs and capitalists are finding more and more ways to give us what we want sooner. As a consequence, we are conditioning ourselves to expect results without putting in the work. How about you? Do you still wait your turn in line? Do you plan for things that won’t happen for months? Do you even have the patience to read this post?
An obvious example is fast food. Another is the tailgating reckless driver, fired up on road rage. There are special lines at amusement parks where, if you spend more money, you can pass everyone else. What about auto-tune? Is it too much to take some singing classes and develop a sense of pitch? I won’t even go into the general approach to relationships these days. I’ll just say it’s a rare thing to find a couple who truly values investing in a life-long relationship with the true meaning of love (ref: 1 Corinthians 13).
How many Americans have accrued credit card debt? It’s so easy to use that card and say, “I’ll just make sure I pay it off later this month.” Only, that one purchase turns into another, which turns into another. Before you know it, you’re wondering how you spent that much on “little things” – things that could have waited. Then you’re making minimum payments and deferring the resolution. Did you really need those things right now or could you have waited a little longer? What happened to saving up money in anticipation of making the big purchase?
An example you might not notice, but one that is of a personal matter to me, is the progression of the DJ. The first DJs used turntables and a mixer. They matched the tempo of two songs, queued up the next song to match the beats and pitch, all the while manipulating the vinyl with their hands. There was no automation. During blends and transitions, the two songs had to be manually maintained with matched beats. While this isn’t the hardest thing in the world to learn, it takes time to learn. Just like any art, it takes practice to perfect.
Now, in the clubs and even in the mall, most “DJs” use a computer program that will automatically sync up two MP3s at the press of a single button. Not only will the program adjust the tempo and pitch of the next song, it will even perform the transition for the most lazy and incompetent of DJs. Where is the fun in that? What skill does that require? While this “gets the job done”, it eliminates the artistic element – the very skill that originated the profession.
Look in your fridge, freezer, and pantry. How many raw foods do you have compared to products that have been processed so they can be prepared more quickly? Look for chicken strips, instant mashed potatoes, microwave dinners, and Pop Tarts. There’s peanut butter and jelly combined into one jar. I’ve even seen microwave toast in the freezer section. Seriously. I understand we don’t usually have the time to roast a chunk of meat for a few hours, but it doesn’t take very long to prepare most meals if you keep it simple.
Now take the foods we consider raw. I’ve been reading the book Eating Animals, which is not necessarily a call to vegetarianism or veganism, but more a look at the sources of our animal protein. I’ll reserve my opinion until I finish the book and look into some alternate viewpoints. Until then, I’ll just say it’s an eye opener if you put any consideration into the food you eat and how it affects your health. Our collective lack of patience has changed the manner in which the animals we eat were raised, fed, slaughtered, and processed. This certainly has had an impact on the nutritional value of our food.
What about all the ads for “quick weight loss”? Why do liposuction, gastric bypass, and metabolism-changing drugs exist? Except in extreme cases, I can’t believe people would willingly undergo surgery to remove fat. It’s the same as paying to get cut open for a nose job or implants. Except in this case, they could lose the fat the old fashioned way but instead choose an easier, yet more dangerous, approach.
I have endured a few exercises in patience over the past few years – some based on goals; some in reaction to circumstances. I will try to not act like an expert on the matter, but I’d like to pass along some things I’ve learned.
When you make resolutions for this year, set reasonable and measurable goals. Do not rush and quickly lose motivation, but do not neglect your goals. Look for support from others with similar goals. Make it a friendly competition.
Weight loss takes time. The scale alone will not always show progress. Use a tape measure and calipers. Use bodyfat % estimates. I bought a scale that helps me track my estimated bodyfat %. Take pictures periodically.
Likewise, strength training takes time. If you rush, you’ll over-exert yourself and only set yourself back. With a proper program, you will see gains every week for the first several months. Again, you have to track your workouts and you have to keep consistency between workouts. If you change routines or rest periods in between sets every week, you can’t directly compare your progress. Don’t focus on the amount of weight you can lift in comparison to others. Focus on the form and pushing yourself to lift as heavy as you can, safely. Form will ensure safety. Heavy weights will ensure growth.
I recently took an interest in rock climbing. I already have an appreciation for this sport because technique allows equality between women and men, children and adults. But technique takes time to learn. It also takes months upon years to develop the strength in fingers, joints, tendons required for advanced climbing. It’s not something you can just buy your way into.
You will also face setbacks and adversity this year. The first chapter of the book of James has something to say about this:
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
My message may be a bit scattered, but I think that shows how patience can be applied in many situations. Patience requires understanding that each of our problems or goals require different means. As we start another year making resolutions and goals, reacting to diversity and confrontation, remember patience. It will prove to be one of your most powerful talents. Those of you who made it this far in my post already have a head start.